Some important points mentioned in majority are :It has been emphatically mentioned that
1) Use deshi ghee cow lamp enlighted during the day of shraddha or daily niranjan during pitrupaksha ( Not baffelo ghee )
2) ( karpoor home / dhuni ) Daily burn karppor upto last day in front of pitar photos if available.
I do karpoor aarati to lord Hanuman and my sadguru photo and show same to piatars.
3) Daily show pinch of sugar and water to drink ( I do ) Not mentioned anywhere.
4) Daily give arghya to lord Suryanarayan in morning and donot forget to do At least on day of shraddha. This is tremendously supposed to remove pitru doshas.
5 ) Bring gangamai river water or ganga jal and mix it in the water used for shraddha or tarpan vidhi.
6) Do not kill any animal.
7) Donot bring any new material in house except related to daily cooking.
8) Whatever pitar were liking any food, you can show as a naivedya to them.
9) Out of naivedya apart from home lord and for pitaras :
- 1 each naivedya for cow
- 1 for dog
- 1 for cow
- 1 for ants ( chintia)
I suggest, not written
If not possible to prepare naivedya for all except for home lord and pitaras, give some parsley glucose or any sweet biscuits to dog or cow.
Cows eat parley glucose very happily.
Can give bananas or fine mixture of him shenga laddus to cows.
These laddus are readymade available in any kirana shop and cost 5 to 10 rs per piece.
But don't feed laddus directly.
Take a big double piece of news paper. Crush around 8 to 10 laddus for 1 cow. Different for others.
Can give sugar to ants in the garden.
Can give milk ( sweet ) bread to cows.
If cow is horny, Dont go close to her . Place the paper on ground and leave her alone.
Before going near to any animals like cow , dogs take the name of lord Ganesh or hanuman or any other u like for self protection.
Shloka for self protection to be chanted in mind or verbally ; Every time u leave house or any place or change the place.
This is as Following :
Agrate mo narsimho
parshwato govindaha
ubhayo ram laxmano
sa sharir rakshatam mum
What precautions needs to be taken in pitru (Ancestor) worshipping karma ?
10 ) No any physical contact to be kept to be kept .
In one of the spiritual books by param pujya vasudevanand saraswati Tembe Swami Maharaj he has clearly mentioned that no any physical relations to be maintained by couple on the day of shraddha.
11 ) No any misbehaviour to be performed . Donot hurt any body . Keep senses under controll.
12 ) Ask apology to pitars for any mistakes done at our hands which have happened knowingly or unknowingly and due to which they got hurted. Humbly request them to forgive us
13 ) While doing shraddha donot use iron asan ( lohe ka)
14 ) During shraddha if anyone comes to house, treat them respectfully who so ever it is. Can give them water and something or prasad to eat.
15 ) Treat Gurujis respectfully even if late or otherwise.
Can give vastra apart from dakshina to guruji. This vastra presentation i leave to everyone 's desire and economic condition.
16) Donot apply haldi kumkum , chaval or roli ( I didn't get meaning of roli) to photo. Chandan powder is best.
I feel that ashtagandha may be alternative.
17 ) At least khir or paysa ( puri khir recommended in many articles) as a naivedya may be shown on the day of shraddha for home lord and pitars. ( I say)
18 ) Donation in form of distribution of fresh food like jambo vada Pav or idli or shira or upama or tea or coffee ( items are easily available on road vendors or restaurant) .
In my opinion tell gents and ladies should not preferably go in front of outsiders or beggers or bhikshuks.
Distribution of old or new cloths or towels or napkins to poor people as per the capacity.
Whenever u are going to distribute food to any outsider , 1 simple measure for protection = We daily store home udbatti angara mixed with tirthakshetra or any jagrut temple angara of udbatti in small box in our house.
Apply the same to neck or any body part and then leave for food distribution.